- Significance and purpose
- Instructions how to use this application
- Basic attitude
- Encouragement to serenity
- Therapeutically Instructions
- Philosophical and stylistically Advices
- Encouragement for inner freedom
Significance and purpose
This application wants you to encourage your self-exploration in a playful way. By answering the questionnaire you might gain new insights, reflections and knowledge.
You can enter these temporarily answers directly to your i Phone, iPad or iPod and save them. Another option is to save your answers as a pdf. document and send it to your email account.
Sometimes the easy things in life have the biggest effect, that´s why the questions are quite simple verbalized. You are the central figure- as a user of this application, because you are the specialist about yourself. All the vital questions are resource-oriented with a focus towards your talents and options. It is of most importance if it works. And the more the better… But in the end these applications should be funny and entertaining, to blow one´s own trumpet, to be proud about one´s own progress and great effort!
In the introduction of this application I want to give several advices from a therapeutic and family therapeutic point of view, but only as an advice without requirement on completeness.
I´m always keen to improve and develop this application. That´s why I´m looking forward to your feedback.
My homepage: www.Jan-Kropf.de
Feedback’s send to: Mail@Jan-Kropf.de
Instruction about how to use this application
Do you already think about, how to use this application the best way and how to find answers to the questions? I can give you a simple advice: Just take it easy. Fill in the sheets only when you feel like it, only when you have fun. Take your time, sometimes more, sometimes less, sometimes do it well-profounded and intensive, sometimes completely superficially, playful and other times more seriously. It will be quite interesting to repeat this questionnaire after a while.
A vital question project like this includes also to think about the past without getting stocked in there. The conscious reflection and the benefits of the past will lead us to a peaceful and fulfilled future. Self-enquiry should lead you in a playful way to more self confidence and thereby to an improvement of yourself.
I would like to encourage you, to sit down calmly and take a look at yourself from a humble and modest point of view. Maybe you will be able to see new aspects and facets of your own personality. Please feel completely free with your answers. Sometimes it might be adequate to answer with just one word.
Most people live an easy but absolutely reasonable life without going through major changes. And that is good as it is. Habits have always something positive and make sense. Often something could get wrong, if you are willing to change things too quick, and you overextend yourself.
The conception that it might be useful to get to know yourself is not a contradiction. You might be able to develop more self confidence, skills and power, and last but not least more looseness, contentment, vitality and gracefulness.
Most people feel good, if they are neither over-strained nor sub-challenged in their daily life. That´s when you are going through the “Flow-Effect”, the moment of fluxion, when you feel completely happy with yourself. A characteristic of this state is the feeling, that time flies. A similar description of “Flow-Effects” gives us the hypnotherapy. It describes driving a car like an automatic working state of trance, where actions like operating the clutch or slowing down are becoming an automatic action but also under the absolute control and consciousness of the driver. If one drove with reflection each of his actions, one’s mind would be completely over-strained.
One of the most important thing in life is to live enough of this “Flow-Effects”, to create a good sense of humor and self-irony. To depend less on these so called experts and listen & trust more in yourself. It is not absolutely necessary to always reach everything and fight for the highest targets. It is also not necessary to “take stock” like economically-oriented consultants might recommend.
In particular, the experience with disadvantaged people shows me, that changes and objectives are easier to reach if you meet them incidentally instead of running after them with artificially constructed target agreements. It should be more about life. Often we have to endure gracefully unfavourable phases over a long period before we can start accepting them with ease and poise. A beautiful citation by Mother Teresa says: “In this life we won’t be able to do big things but we can do small things with a lot of love.”
Since past two decades progressive social-pedagogical institutions in the German speaking world are oriented towards the attitude of “empowerment”. The roots of this concept came from the liberation movement by the repressed black population in the USA. It shows support to the social repressed people in their attitude of self-realization. My application has been developed, based on this attitude to help people, repressed or not, to reach a high level of self-effectiveness.
In the oldest and most ancient writings of the humanity, the Indian verses, we benefit from the traditional knowledge, which are gaining in importance these days again.
The ancient Indian language Sanskrit has such a beautiful sound that I want to use the original names as well as the English translation: It is about the values; Prema or Love, Sathya or Truthfulness, Dharma or Righteousness, Shati or Peacefulness and Ashima or Non-violence. My five first questions are regarding these basic and valuable attitudes. It is worth examining your answers in this application also with these five basic attitudes above.
Encouragement to serenity
In nature, each strongly grown tree is a symbol of strength and power. The strength of the tree has its fundamental basic in the roots. The same is true for us human beings. Easy changes are only possible, or to say it from a naturalistic point of view, if our inner stability and therefore our rootlessness in life is well developed.
“Bye, bye… Couch! How to avoid your therapists couch” says the Dutch author and therapist Jeffrey Wijnberg already in the title of his book as a warning of the members of his profession…
In a quite humorous way he puts common attitudes within the world of psychotherapy into question . He wants to warn everybody just not to fall too quick and easy into the hands of a therapist, as it is a fact that therapies are often not helpful. His opinion about self confidence for example, I find quite astonishing. Wijnberg represents the opinion, that quite often it might be more helpful to be more careful and restrained, in order to avoid wrong decisions.
It is a brave move to hold a view like that, as it is against the common opinion of mainstream therapists, who rather say that self confidence is one of the most important aims in therapy.
But I want to go back to the imaginative picture of the tree, which hasn´t been chosen accidentally. One of the most important and basic exercises in Phyllis Krystal’s method is the “exercise of the tree”, which I´ll explain in a few words: You should sit down at a quite place, close your eyes and think about a strongly grown tree. Then try to imagine, that you are inside the trunk of that tree in order to feel the entire treetop and roots. The roots are the symbol of the “cosmic” mother and therefore the “ideal” or perfect mother, which maybe didn´t exist in your real childhood. Through concentrate breathing your imagination will be set free, to get everything by that “ideal” mother that you have been missing during your whole life. According to the roots, the “cosmic” or “ideal” father is symbolized by the treetop. Everything you have been missing from your natural father, you could receive now.
This method might take a little bit to get uses to, but it works! Most of the times,the only “problem” results by never having performed this exercise, even though one might have found it useful. This execise has been described in the book “Cutting Ties That Bind Wirkbook”.
In many difficult vital situations, when the inner pain is quite heavy, you wont be able to avoid, asking for therapeutical help. Then it will be very important, that a magnificent therapist has been chosen. A therapist with an extraordinary model status should be adequate to consult. It is crucial for a successful therapy, that the personality of the therapist matches your own personality.
As I am quite familiar in the sector of systemic family therapy, I would like to give some advice and lead the user of this application to a journey into a new world.
But here as well, I’ll have to ask for a certain serenity! Self exploring, or the exploration of your own family traditions- and patterns is very exciting, but takes some time. You also have to be strong, to be able to integrate long time hidden items of the inner family and treat these issues in a positive way.
Probably there are a lot of people who are able to benefit from the systemic family therapy. On the other hand it is as it is with many things in life: a good matter or item is not always valuable or helpful to everyone. A creative form of therapy or even a classic therapy might be sometimes more effective for different reasons.
But now I would like to take you on a short trip into the systemic family therapy. To start with, I would like to indicate the following books written by Gunthard Wber (Editorial Carl Auer) “Understanding and Healing Injuries of the Soul” (www.carl-auer.com)
Dr. med. Gunthard Weber, indicates in a vivid way, how to find solutions in a warmly an human way for people in difficult situations in their life. Gunthard Weber worried a lot about the connection between the different systemic approaches. Every now an then, he is still leading work groups, especially those that work with the method of system constellations. Furthermore he founded a very successful and impressive development program in Africa. His managing successor is Dr. phil. Dipl.-Psych. Diana Drexler, who also works in an extraordinary professional and human way. To look for help of both of them is highly recommended.
Furthermore I’d like to point out at the website and the books of Prof. Dr. Franz Ruppert, who is a psychological psychotherapist from Munich. Franz Ruppert has scientifically explained the systemic coherences between the disorder of an individual and the associated family structures – and patterns, like no one else before. Further on he has been very successful with his scientific and revealing work with persons who suffer from a psychological disease, a mostly positive progress of this disorder.
The working method by Franz Ruppert is characterized by a warm-hearted and human handling with people.
It is quite remarkable, that he hasn´t had any fears of contact in the treatment with the affected person, as he sees psychotic attitudes in a very native way, separating them from the individual and leads them back to traumatic family incidents.
That by itself conducts the affected person to a noticeable relief and therefore to a healing process. The point of view by Franz Ruppert shows a shift of the paradigms in the psychiatric world which has been clearly necessary. His books can be ordered via his homepage or you can download them for free in several languages.
In my opinion, Dr. med. Gunter Schmidt personifies the aspects of humour, serenity and simplicity inside a therapy, like no other person. He deals with complicated facts in an easy and simple way. He is immediately on the same level like everybody else. His seminars take place like monologues, which is encouraging and fascinating despite his self focussed way of behaviour.
As a founder and manager of the Milton Ericson Institute in Heidelberg he indicates a very believable and competent connection between systemic therapy and hypnotherapy. This combination has been quite helpful particularly in the sector of addiction. Gunter Schmidt and his colleagues are the founders and leaders of two clinics for psychosomatic and addiction in the region of Heidelberg.
One of the most renowned representatives of the hypnotherapy in America is Jay Haley. He wrote an book which introduces this method: “The Psychiatric Techniques of Milton H. Erickson, M.D.
Further on I would like to highly recommend Dr. med. Dr. Dietrich Klinghardt. He is the founder of psycho kinesiology, a developed combination of several naturopathic and therapeutic methods, which are commonly used by non-medical practitioner healers. Dietrich Klinhardt emigrated to the United States years ago, to provide his repertoire of methods unimpeded by the German hostility towards innovation and establish them very successfully, even in hospitals.
philosophy of life and stylistically advices
Many people don´t own a lot of inner values and therefore they seem to be quite far from realistic moral codes of life and the society. Unfortunately some of these people even start to write books which have a bad taste and a populist touch. In the summer of 2010 a high-ranking, old and embittered man with equally foreign roots presumed to write a pamphlet against immigrants. Over the last years several other power-obsessed men appeared, whos only target apparently seems to be giving a highly overemphasized advice in their books about disciplinary actions towards children and teenagers to earn a bunch of money. Now it is the right moment for all of us to reflect about the real values in life, not only to free ourselves, but also in the aspect of “liberation of opinion” towards these miss directed opinions.
The priority task of people should be particularly to serve the society, considering the true values and the serious attempt to always aim for the best. The Dalaih Lama personifies a shining example and an idol. In this context I would like to recommend a book written by Daniel Goleman with the title “Primal Leadership: Learning to Lead with Emotional Intelligence”. It was originally written for managers and executives, but it has many interesting advices for all of us to develop our emotional skills. Daniel Goleman participates every year the “Mind and Life” congress with other western scientists to compare eastern and western sights of view and to learn from each other. The primary objective of these congresses is to explore the mind in order to minimize human suffering and pain and to support the well being of the individual. The following websites are in English:
For many people the Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh- who exiled to France, is a similar shining light like the Dalaih Lama. He wrote several books about the same issue like Daniel Goleman. One of his books has the title “The Art of Power”. As someone who lived in the cruelty of the Vietnam war, Thich Nhat Hanh strives to instruct as many people as possible to reach their inner serenity and therefore freedom, even though the circumstances might be contradictory. Another book written by him is “Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life”.
Eckart Tolle is taking us into another inner journey . His books “The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightement” and “A new Earth: Awakening to Your Life´s Purpose” are giving instructions how to work with the function of our consciousness and to explore further on. Eckhart Tolle is talking about a “painbody” which we create, when our thoughts are going to be to negative. Obviously there are given instructions by the author, how to live with more freedom referring to this aspect.
A really beautiful and vital philosophic book has been written by the psychologist couple Lency Spezzano and Dr. Chuck Spezzano. It is called “If It Hurts, It Isn´t Love: And 365 Principles to Heal and Transform Your Relationship” is helping us how to treat the issues mentioned, carefully.
Byron Katie has been working with her method “The Work” for decades, which has been helpful to a lot of people. This method tells us about how to prove systematically our own thoughts about their content of verity. Often we follow thoughts which are causing stress and pain even though they don´t correspond with reality. Byron Katies method is worth to understand and to learn.
By closing this chapter I’d like to present one of the greatest teachers, who offers us advices in how to obtain or get back the health of our body and soul. I am talking about Louise Hay. This American is one of the most important representatives of “positive thinking”, which sometimes seems to be a bit naive and is probably presented in a quite simple way. Nevertheless we can say, that positive thinking is proven to be effective und deserves its range within therapeutic oriented literature.
You can check her English website:
encouragement to inner freedom
At the end of this introduction I’d like to recommend the method of Phyllis Krystal. The inner work, which is developed in according with this method shows an easy and sustainable option to break free from the influences you went through in your childhood. These early impressions are mostly completely unconscious, that’s why they even after decades still have a huge effect in our life.
Phyllis Krystal is still holding seminars and treatment sessions at the age of 97 , teaching how to implement this simple method, to break free from everything which prevents us from living a happy life. The trick is to connect the superior part in ourself with the inner voice, the higher consciousness or “higher self”.
In her books: “Cutting the Ties That Bind: Growing Up and Moving On” and “Let Go!”- The manual”). The exercise book to “Cutting Ties That Bind Workbook”. Phyllis Krystal is offering guidance to us.
The only difficulty with this method is that we have to use it regularly to obtain a long-lasting positive effect.